Charlotte Spassoff @charlottesyoga_
We as Human beings are a social species that rely on cooperation in order to survive and thrive. This means we work best in a community and it is in our innate nature to gather and provide. We all want a sense of purpose and to feel like we belong. Navigating through our society today can be overwhelming and confusing.
As a teenager and young adult, I fell into a group where I thought I belonged because it took me away from something I was struggling with at the time. I always chased this sense of “freedom”, when in retrospect, I knew nothing of it. Eventually, after recognizing my destructive behaviors, I began to chip away. Starting by removing myself from certain situations and people.
With each conscious decision, I aimed to surround myself with people who motivated me instead of bringing me down and draining my energy. The power of community is sometimes underrated because we have been programmed to think it’s weak to ask for help and seek comfort in others. Self-care/love is something that for the longest time was overlooked because we are too busy “grinding” and “always on the go”. Thinking we don’t have time to slow down, another mindset we have backward.
Inspired by the community, I decided I wanted to change other lives the way mine was changed. My vision was to create platforms, where people can gather, grow, experience and heal. These events would allow people from different backgrounds, professions, desires, and interests to gather. The only requirement would be: the desire, no matter how little, to better yourself.
My favorite quote is by Ernst Hemingway, “There is nothing noble in being superior to your fellow man; true nobility is being superior to your former self”.
For the longest time, I put a glass ceiling over my own head, thinking I was never good enough or ready to lead others. “Why would they want to listen to me?”. I went back to the drawing board, shifted my perspective and strategy and was able to accomplish my goal! Instead of leading every segment in a retreat, I brought together people with different talents and passions and allowed them to share with the community. My very first event was a weekend yoga + wellness retreat in Big Bear Lake, CA. In retrospect, knowing everything that goes into planning, I still laugh at the idea that I thought I was able to pull it off and I am inspired by my own ability to put doubts aside and just do it! Needless to say, the weekend was everything I dreamed of and more. This was the beginning of my wellness event coordination journey.
My events are structured around; movement, community, nutrition, and mindfulness. I provide a variety of tools and techniques and encourage them to take what serves them best. I don’t believe that there is one right way for every person. That is why I don’t push any form of diet or lifestyle. Sure, there are guidelines and general things people should limit. Bio-individuality and connecting to our primal roots is a big building block in my wellness outlook and how I structure my wellness events.
This wellness boom and exchange of information could not have happened without technology and social media platforms. This has allowed us to come a long way; however, technology can be a double-edged sword. On one side it allows us to connect, teach and learn from others; however, the downside is the loneliness, the self-criticism + destruction in chasing other people’s lives. One thing technology can not replace is nutrition and community, the desire for human connection will never die out. So get off your phone, get out of your head and go outside! When was the last time you met a person the “old school way”, face- to – face? You are not alone in the crazy thing we call life, grab a friend and try something new. If you are an Orange County local and want to check out my events, head over to @charlottesyoga_